BDSM Education
Current class offerings. Feel free to message with any questions or to ask about availability. I am also more than happy to discuss developing a class to fit your group's specific needs or interests! Unless otherwise specified classes run 90 minutes. Most classes can be expanded to two hours, by request some (but not all) classes can be modified to an hour timeframe.
Play and Scene Skills Classes
Bottoming 101
An introductory class, from the perspective of a bottom and lifestyle submissive. This class is specifically designed to introduce newcomers to BDSM and help them navigate what can be an intimidating entry into the lifestyle. We focus on safety, vetting, negotiations, education, and personal exploration in a discussion geared toward new bottoms and s-types.
Vetting and Keeping Yourself Safe
We all know the importance of vetting, but are we really doing it effectively? What other tools and resources do you have to keep yourself safe? This workshop focuses on how to vet a potential partner, questions to ask, how to evaluate the answers, and some of the tools at your disposal. We will also discuss keeping yourself safe during your initial meeting and play, as well as red flags that can be hidden further down the line.
Humiliation Without Body Negativity
We often associate humiliation with feeling ashamed about our bodies or mind. For those who struggle with body image, that can mean not wanting to engage in humiliation play. But what if you really like being squirmy, shy, and embarrassed in front of people? What if you really want to explore humiliation in a positive way? The reality is that humiliation can be achieved in many different ways, and different tactics make different people “tick.” This class delves into the ways that positive and even affirming language can be used to create humiliation scenes where the bottom doesn’t have to worry about feeling ashamed of their body or intellect.
Bottoming for the Violet Wand
Bottoming for the Violet Wand is a class focused on skills for Violet Wand bottoms, or those interested in bottoming for electrical play. We will discuss safety, how to vet and assess Wand Tops’ skills and knowledge, how to negotiate the type of play and experience you want, the after-effects of a wand scene, and how to begin doing more advanced play. This class also provides a hands-on opportunity to experience a variety of different sensations from the wand, allowing both new and experienced bottoms a chance to try different types of wands, electrodes, and toys. While the class is geared towards bottoms of all skill levels, Tops are welcome.
Playing in the Mind
Many BDSM scenes are heightened with the addition of a psychological component. However, venturing into that territory is not without risks. This class will focus on scenes with major psychological elements (mindfucks, interrogation, fear play, pushing limits and playing with triggers), negotiating and preparing, crafting the scenes, debriefing, and how to react if something goes wrong. Taught by two advanced edge players, both with backgrounds in human behavior, this is an advanced class for RACK players who want to incorporate more psychological play into their scenes. (Can be co-taught with my Owner.)
Dipping Your Toes In
Deciding to get involved in your local kink community can be an exciting step! But how do you know where to start? What events and spaces might be best for you? In this class we talk about some of the options available for getting into the kink scene and how to figure out what might be best for you. We will talk about some basic vetting and safety tools and what to expect from your first experiences!
Effective Negotiations
Navigating negotiations can be difficult, especially if one (or both) people are new to it. The negotiation part of any scene or relationship is incredibly important, but is often passed over quickly because, let's face it, it's just not as fun as the other stuff! However, being able to effectively negotiate and frame a scene or Power Exchange dynamic can keep both people safe and help prevent confusion and frustration in the future. We will discuss the importance and impact of an effective negotiation, different types of negotiation, and tools for navigating a negotiation when there is a significant experience or power differential.
Topping for the Reluctant Bottom
Are you a bottom or s-type? Are you suddenly asked to Top? Do you want to try switching for fun? Does your partner need to bottom for a scene and only wants to bottom to you? Are you nervous as hell to Top?? Many Tops and D-types enjoy bottoming for certain activities or scenes now and then, sometimes couples want to try switching, or you may want to explore playing with someone new in a different capacity than your usual role. This class is for folks who identify as bottoms and s-types, but want to gain more Topping skills so they can feel more confident in that role. We will talk about common scenarios you may come across where you may want or be asked to Top, first steps to take, tricks for feeling confident and crafting a scene, and strategies to help you feel secure in your role while occasionally stepping out of it.
21st Century Service
Today's tools and technology provide a number of opportunities for service. From organizing travel, planning meals, keeping a butler book, and more, we will talk about how to enhance your service via technology. This class also discusses using these tools to help with other service challenges, like memory and organization.
Relationship Classes
Incorporating PE Dynamics into Everyday Life
Many couples begin their explorations into BDSM in the bedroom, and sometimes discover that they want to continue that power differential in other aspects of their lives. If you decide to explore a PE dynamic, it can easily become overwhelming, for one or both partners. This class discusses things to talk about with your partner, common pitfalls, some easy protocols to integrate into your relationship, and strategies for starting slowly. Depending on the experience level of the attendees, deepening your relationship and reinforcing roles through protocol and service can also be discussed.
Power Exchange with an Experience Differential
Many Power Exchange relationships involve partners with differing levels of experience and involvement with the lifestyle. One partner may have a tremendous amount of play experience but is new to a PE dynamic, or one partner may be introducing the other to the lifestyle in general. How do you navigate these disparities while keeping the Power Exchange intact? If the s-type is the one with the larger knowledge base, how do you maintain the dynamic, if the D-type has more experience how do you keep expectations realistic and not take advantage or overwhelm the s-type? We will explore how to navigate these potential issues, how to discuss them, and ways to work around and avoid them. (Can be co-taught with my Owner.)
Perspectives from Both Sides
Getting inside character's heads can be difficult, especially if you're either a new author, or new to BDSM (or both!). Writing scenes with realistic, detailed dialogue (internal and external), can be a challenge. BDSM scenes are emotionally charged, come with their own set of intense reactions and responses, and each side can be difficult to understand and articulate. Created specifically for authors, this workshop will walk through scenes from the perspectives of both an experienced lifestyle Dominant and submissive, allowing authors to gain a deeper understanding of the emotional and physical journey through scenes, from the perspectives on both sides of the slash. (Can be co-taught with my Owner.)
Conflict in PE Dynamics
Authority transfer and power exchange dynamics don't insulate us from conflict, and can even bring additional challenges when there is friction in the relationship. In this class we discuss communication strategies, the specifics of PE/AT dynamics around conflict, and even tools for mitigating arguments in the future.
Long Distance Power Exchange
Power exchange dynamics exist in myriad ways, and many partners do not live together. This class discusses strategies for building dynamics, maintaining and reinforcing roles, long distance protocols and connection, and handling challenges from separate locations.
Solo Submission
Are you an s-type who flourishes with the structure in a power exchange dynamic? If you are single or without a dynamic that attends to that need, how can you give yourself some of that structure and accountability? In this class we discuss thinking about what it looks like to set expectations, create goals and structure, and even perform service when you don't have a big letter partner.
Mental Health and Kink Classes
BDSM 101 for Providers
(This class is aimed at mental health providers.) More people than ever are bringing kink and BDSM into their lives. It is integral for modern healthcare and mental health professionals to be able to provide understanding and affirming care. This class discusses BDSM and kink through a mental health lens, focusing on de-stigmatizing the people who participate, giving providers an understanding of how encounters are negotiated, and how to recognize the difference between consensual BDSM and abuse.
Kink For Body Affirmation and Fat Liberation
The kink scene is full of body diversity and many people find a lot of freedom in being around a variety of shapes. That doesn't mean that kink spaces are free from the anti-fat bias pervasive in our culture, even when the people in our community work hard to challenge our biases. This class discusses how to explore a different relationship with your body, examining anti-fat bias, and how to make spaces more accommodating and accessible.
Anxiety and Kink: Navigating Community, Scenes, and Relationships
Many people struggle with anxiety— from nagging, anxious thoughts to full-blown panic attacks, and sometimes it feels like it can pop up out of nowhere. This class delves into how to navigate kink (whether it be events, play, or a power exchange dynamic) with anxiety. We will discuss how it might show up or be triggered within certain situations, as well as strategies for handling those scenarios, ways PE dynamics can help create structure to mange anxiety, and grounding tricks you can use anywhere.
Where Did I Hear That? Deconstructing Narratives Around Sex and Kink
How do we develop the stories we tell ourselves? Where did the ideas of what "good and bad," "normal and deviant," and SOMETHING come from? Looking at and deconstructing the narratives and stories about ourselves, sex, and kink, can help our own understanding of those experiences, and things that might be getting in the way of our enjoyment.
Healthy Hurting: Masochism with a History of Self-Harm
Many people find release in pain and can effectively use it as a coping mechanism to manage anxiety, stress, chronic pain, and other challenges. This class focuses on discussing the differences between masochism and detrimental self-injurious behavior, including the physical, emotional, and psychological effects of each. We will talk about interacting and providing support (whether it be intimate relationships, kinky play, or in a mental health setting) with people who need pain in their lives.
Who Told You That? Deconstructing Narratives Around Kink in Sex Therapy
(This class is aimed at mental health professionals.) How do we develop the stories we tell ourselves? Where did the ideas of what "good and bad," "normal and deviant," and SOMETHING come from? Narrative Therapy focuses on helping clients deconstruct those narratives and stories about themselves, look critically at where they come from, and develop their own understanding of their experiences. When put into practice in sex therapy, and particularly around kink and BDSM, it can be a powerful tool for dismantling the biases and judgments people may be carrying about their own desires and interests.